Clingy Boyfriend
Facts about a Relationship with a Clingy Boyfriend
Caught up in the throes of a new relationship, a couple often finds that they want to be together as much as possible; however, when a clingy boyfriend or girlfriend monopolizes their partner’s time, it is likely not a healthy relationship. So how can you tell if your relationship is on a normal track or if it is unhealthy?
One of the best things about the early days of a relationship is that each person involved wears rose colored glasses. Concentrating only on the good and positive qualities of each other, the couple often finds that they enjoy being together so much that even when they are apart, they think of each other. They try to find activities in which they are both interested, but it is common for each to have one or more interests that the other does not share. This is perfectly normal, and the activities enjoyed separately actually bring more into the relationship by providing diversity. Each person is unique, with their own thoughts, opinions, interests, mannerisms and personalities. Having a girlfriend or boyfriend should enhance a person’s individuality rather than change it. As quoted by Aristotle, “the whole is more than the sum of its parts”. When applied to a relationship, it simply means that each individual brings something different into it to make the couple more complete.
Humans are, by nature, social creatures. We have the need to be with and interact with other people, although each of us by varying degrees. Some people are quite content to have limited contact with other individuals, while others cannot function without having other people around. When in a relationship, these traits will affect the counterparts. People who cannot fathom being away from their significant other are considered to be dependent. Whether it is a boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife, this particular trait can become tiresome; especially when the other half of the couple does not have the same tendency. For an independent woman who has a strong mind as to what she wants from life, her job and herself, a clingy boyfriend who wishes to be at her side continuously may at first seem flattering but soon becomes just too much of a good thing.
So what is too much togetherness? It may be different for everyone. Some people enjoy getting several telephone calls each day from their boyfriend or girlfriend, while others become aggravated. The idea of spending every possible moment with another person can create a feeling of being oversaturated or smothered by the attentions, though some people enjoy feeling cosseted in such a way. When a person displays clingy or dependent characteristics, it is important to determine whether or not this is a situation that you feel comfortable remaining within before the relationship grows stronger. Rarely if ever does a dependent person become less clingy over time. Deciding what is comfortable for you is the key to begin dealing with a clingy relationship. Asking friends for their opinion is helpful, but should not be used as a decided factor since all people view relationships in ways that they themselves would wish for them to be.
There are many reasons why a person may become a clingy personality. They may simply have inherited a personality trait that makes them react to the rest of the world in a particular way. Some people who were overprotected or even abused in their childhood may tend to become dependent resulting from a feeling of being powerless. These individuals may also have little self-esteem, and feel more confident or popular through their close association with those who are by nature independent and carefree.
Being in a relationship with a clingy boyfriend or girlfriend can be troublesome situation for some while deemed as intimate and comfortable for others. It is up to each individual to determine how comfortable they feel with the devoted attention of their partner.