Boyfriend Tips
Finding a Boyfriend: Tips for a Fruitful Hunt
So you've finally admitted that you need some boyfriend tips. There's nothing wrong with that--men are of a complex nature, just as women are. Are you feeling like the task of find a boyfriend just isn't as simple as it used to be? Well, the truth is that finding a good boyfriend--and by that I mean one who is just the right match--has never been an easy process. We are going to talk about a few boyfriend tips that will give you a whole new look on men and dating!
The first step is to put on your air of confidence. Meeting new people is never easy, especially when it comes to meeting new men. The whole process can certainly make a gal feel very self conscious, but now isn't the time for that! Men love a confident woman. Don't confuse confidence with going overkill on "the look" or making yourself come across as a sex kitten. These signals can pick up the non-boyfriend sort and leave you feeling sad and cheated. Don't be afraid to make eye contact, as this is a definite invitation to open up the communication airways. Smile and keep your shoulders pulled back. Hunching over and keeping your eyes towards the ground will send a signal that shouts "I want to be left alone".
Initiate conversations that will help you learn about one another. They say opposites attract but there has to be some common ground between the two of you if the relationship is going to work. Find out what his favorite music or movies are, if he reads, whether he likes rock climbing, or whatever. Don't be afraid to make a comment, either. Input will lead the conversation on and will indicate to him that you're open for a little personality probing as well.
If you don't mind a hug or a kiss goodnight, then make sure your body language is relaying the message to your date. If you appear stand-offish towards the end of the date, then he might think you're not into contact on the first date. In order to let him know it's okay to kiss your cheek or give a quick cuddle, you'll need to loosen your demeanor a bit. Now you don't want to appear like a vixen, but smiling while making eye contact and keeping yourself open for contact, such as leaving your hands at your sides, will let him feel that you are approachable. If your arms are crossed in front of you and you keep ducking your head, his subconscious is going to register this as a warning sign that you've got boundaries up.
Try not to take the leech-like maneuver. It can be very tempting to latch onto a man that you feel is a good find, but that can in fact drive him away. Don't talk about babies, weddings, or anything that suggests he is being cornered into a commitment. Yes, the idea of searching for a boyfriend is to develop a long-lasting relationship, but there is a time for everything and a relationship that's going to last needs to be built slowly and on a solid foundation. So in the early stages of getting to know one another, try not to call him too often or smother him with text messages or e-mails. Let him know that you're open to seeing him again and then leave it to him to decide if that's what he wants.
Let your feminine side out. Men subconsciously register the signs that females' bodies put out. A flip of the hair, exposing the neck, and drawing attention to the hips are primal instincts that basically play on a man's subconscious mate-seeking radar. As females, we don't even realize we do this most of the time, but nature has given us these built-in "catch-a-mate" tools. You're probably wondering what happened to yours. Most likely nothing, you just keep your tools locked up. Don't be afraid to wear a "pretty" dress or a feminine, lacy top. If you wear a baggy shirt and jeans, how is his internal radar going to connect with your "just look at these hips--I'm a prime baby maker"? Obviously no one's looking for baby action early on in a relationship, but that's what attraction is. It's our natural reproductive instincts that tell us to go for a confident man because he seems like a good provider/protector, or for a guy to look for a woman who is strong yet "well-rounded" and soft because in nature, these typically prove to be good breeding characteristics.
These boyfriend tips should hopefully see you attracting more boyfriend-material guys. Just remember that the way you present yourself--especially with a first impression--is the key. You want to appear approachable, feminine, yet confident enough that you don't cling to someone after the first date. Best of luck with your boyfriend hunt!